Who are you? And what can you do for me?
Why our circle shrinks as we get older
In the current world we live in, I don’t understand why adult relationships are so hard to craft. We all had tons of friends when we were in school, why has it shrunk considerably now?
At some point in our lives, we realize that most people are selfish and savage; and that they simply don’t have time for surface relationships. Most of the people we meet in our adult lives only look for short transactional conversations.
No one wants to waste time making meaningful relationships that last. If you can do something for someone, they make an effort to remember you. It doesn't help that as we get older, we lose interest in a lot of things. Our mind rewires itself to be more self-sufficient and independent.
Does it really have to be this way?
In short, yes; but in longer terms, no. The people we run into in our adult life, are often colleagues from work, or someone we meet during a business meeting overseas. What I mean to say, is that most of these acquaintances are short term. As we grow, we understand that people come and go, but no one’s really hear to stay.
In times like these, a simple act of calling someone to say hi, or meeting up for a small cup of coffee can make a difference. We tend to use people and love things, not the other way round.
I’m fortunate enough to have a small tight circle that I hold close. If you have one of these circles in your life, hold on to them & don’t let them go. Experiments have shown time and time again that making meaningful relationships with people around us tend to make us happier and help us lead meaningful lives.
Who we associate ourselves with, speaks volumes about our quality of our lives & how we perceive daily life.
Maybe it’s time we put effort and time into our relationships as much we do in our work. Maybe it’s time to prioritize what’s truly important in our lives.
Maybe then, we’ll truly be happy.
